Divorcing a narcissist is never easy, but after the divorce I’m realizing most of my “friends” gave up on me when I married him and have no stomach to get back involved with me, at least not now. So it’s up to ME to make new friends and remember how to be social.
So I’ve taken myself on dates, to movies, out to dinner to see friends play at local clubs. Dinners have been the most challenging. One night I went to my favorite steak house and as the host seated me he was asking “so you’re alone” and I was like – “Yeah – it’s preferable” and I’m sitting there waiting on my meal and the table across from me gave me the same “pity.” The challenge with going out at night is I’m trying to make sure I’m getting good rest for being healthy and I tend to stay out late.
But TONIGHT, I’m going out to see my friend, Bob play at a local pub/brewery. I don’t drink beer but it’s an opportunity to get out and attempt to be social. I’ll never meet anyone if I don’t put myself in a position TO meet anyone.
So wish me luck!